Guilt and shame
Struggling with guilt and shame is prevalent among men and women who grew up in a dysfunctional environment and must be dealt with in recovery to heal and grow.
Guilt can either be healthy or toxic; it is feeling bad about your mistakes and wrongdoings. Shame, on the other hand, is toxic. It’s the feeling of unworthiness.
Healthy guilt is when you’re regretful of actions that you knew was wrong. In recovery, you would resolve such guilt by making amends. On the other hand, toxic guilt is when you condemn yourself for things you were not responsible for, did not understand, or things that are beyond your control.
This type of guilt leads us down the path of regret, shame, self-sabotage, and finally, depression. It prevents us from moving forward and keeps us chained to the past, making it difficult for us to become aware of the reality of events.
Shame is when you feel bad about your worth as a person, believing that you are broken, unlovable, and unworthy. Shame is the worst type of emotion anyone can feel; it stays with you and becomes a permanent feeling of unworthiness that can influence your moods, relationships, and career.
Shame and toxic guilt go hand in hand and are usually the result of growing up in abuse, neglect, and bullying.
The degree of flexibility and tolerance towards the mistakes we make or could make, our capacity for acceptance, our degree of empathy are factors that adjust our interpretations and evaluations and free us from guilt. Overcoming Guilt and shame will make you feel empowered and unlock potentials you never knew existed.